I’ve been thinking about people who say “blabla JAFO happened and I had to forgive” and realise that’s not how I see it, not how I experience forgiveness.
Our function is not to forgive, but to interrupt our unforgiveness.
Pursah’s True Forgiveness Thought Process Example (I call it PTFTPE) is great because it makes it very difficult for us to continue our unforgiving thoughts while reciting it.
But thought processes like that, and all those nice italic sections from the Text, are not actually forgiveness, they are just interrupters.
Forgiveness is not a positive act, it is the cessation of what we are already engaged in. What we are engaged in is an endless tirade against the world, our brothers and ourselves.
Forgiveness can happen without a thought. The tirade can unhappen at any moment, with or without an interruption exercise.
Note that this message is in response to Marcy, whose message is not included
Thanks Marcy for your lovely story.
My forgiveness practise (unforgiveness interruption practise ^_^) has evolved over time. I keep discovering new forgiving thoughts to think.
The latest is: my job is to breathe; everything else is J’s job. When I see myself trying to interfere in my life (or in some cases other people’s lives) I can realise that I don’t need to.
I find myself concerned about something or someone. I fall out with someone, in such a way that it looks like there’s no further way I can help them as they have placed themselves out of my reach. I say J, please look after my friend. And he says (always the same thing):
I will take care of it.