True forgiveness is based on sameness. You recognise that the person, while different in form is the same as you in content, or the object or situation is the same as any other object or situation.
Forgiveness sees Innocence in everyone and everything without exception. It undoes perception of guilt, and relinquishes thoughts of attack and defence.
Forgiveness holds no grievances of any kind.
A forgiving thought establishes the certain Innocence of its subject.
Forgiveness frees the one who forgives.
Examples of True Forgiveness thought processes
I wish perfect happiness for [name]
How sincerely can you say this about the person who occupies your thoughts?
Wishing perfect happiness for someone means unbinding them. If they have perfect happiness, they don’t need you anymore. Which means you can’t manipulate or control them to get them to meet your needs. They are free of you. Unforgiveness is reluctance to set your slaves free.
[name] can be your name. E.g. I wish perfect happiness for Freyr.
I need do nothing about [object or situation]
Try to say that with perfect sincerity about anything special to you and objections will arise in your mind.
As the Course puts it:
An unforgiving thought does many things. In frantic action it pursues its goal, twisting and overturning what it sees as interfering with its chosen path. Distortion is its purpose, and the means by which it would accomplish it as well. It sets about its furious attempts to smash reality, without concern for anything that would appear to pose a contradiction to its point of view. Forgiveness, on the other hand, is still, and quietly does nothing. It offends no aspect of reality, nor seeks to twist it to appearances it likes. It merely looks, and waits, and judges not. He who would not forgive must judge, for he must justify his failure to forgive. But he who would forgive himself must learn to welcome truth exactly as it is.1
Not super happy with this. Good enough for a first pass. Rewrite later.