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Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving

A recommendation for this book came to me (miraculously) to help me with my chosen path of unreserved self-respect which had brought shame to the surface.

I noticed that one of the section titles is “The Unexamined Life is Not Worth Living” which is a quote from Socrates, and also the title of a 16 hour Kenneth Wapnick lecture I’ve been enjoying.

Also the author’s previous book is called the The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiviness out of Blame

It is not 100% consistent with ACIM. But it’s the medicine I need and it’s certainly going in the right direction. Other books about childhood abuse and neglect I haven’t gotten on with, because they make it real too much, and don’t have forgiveness as the aim. I don’t want any process that doesn’t end at forgiveness.

But like Ken says, before you forgive abuse, you first have to recognise it as abuse. Understanding the ‘in the world’ origin of my feelings of shame has turned out to be very affirming and a helpful step.

And I see now how shame has been the motivation for pretty much all my past thoughts, words and actions. This book describes so many of my character attributes that I do not know what/who will be left when shame has been fully reversed.

Currently I’m just watching as waves of shame wash over me. Old thoughts, all now seen to be invalid, come to my awareness for correction.